It's my experience that getting to know yourself and what you want is as big a part of dating as meeting people. But obviously - meeting new people is sort of a given if you're going to date. I've mentioned before that I had some success in meeting people online. Most of the people I met were decent - but that doesn't mean there weren't a few 'jerks' in the mix.
The site where I met the most people is Plenty of Fish. It's a totally free website - so it makes sense there are more profiles out there, which means more people to meet. It also increases the jerk-factor. That's fine though - if part of dating is learning what you are looking for, then learning how to spot what you don't want is an important part of the process.
- He repeatedly sends you the same email over and over (I'm talking word for word)
- He sends you that first "Hi, nice to meet you" email - after you've already talked (double-jerk points if he does this after you've gone on a date)
- He asks, especially in your first conversation, when you last had sex - and shares that same information about himself (overshare, my friend)
- He expects to get in your car and/or find out where you live on the first date
- He yells at you via IM for being a democrat
- He makes plans with you...and then cancels over and over
- He will only chat with you while he's at work (hint, hint)
- He says, "You're nice and all, but you're too fat for me." (What the WHAT?!)
- He sports chin-strap facial hair
Luckily - most dating websites and IM/email services (I preferred Yahoo, myself) allow you to block users. My suggestion? Learn how to use this feature before you start contacting people. It'll save you a bunch of frantic key-strokes in the middle of your work day. Trust me on this.
Meeting people is tough - but it is so worth the effort. I met far more nice guys than I did jerks, and would not have traded the experience for anything.
What are your "he might be a jerk ifs?"