My cousin had a baby in March. He's the cutest, squishiest little thing you ever wanted to meet. I adore him. I'm not at all sorry that she had to sacrifice her gorgeous figure to have him.
|So worth it.|
While mom would agree with that, she's probably less okay with the results than I am. She's gorgeous - but annoyed that she can't find cute clothes in a size that will work right now. Because, let's face it - even when you're trying, losing weight takes time. Who wants to wait to look good?
This happens to be a subject that's near and dear to my own fashion-filled heart - since I have worn a size 12+ most of my adult life. I'm also short, which is added fun. The fashion world only just got word a few years ago that some women are short and others are not thin - seems it needs to be broken gently that some of these short, not-thin women are actually the same person. *frustrated sigh*
So why does cute stop at twelve? I've heard arguments that making nice, fashionable clothing above a certain size encourages obesity and unhealthy living. Huh? Aren't there healthy, non-obese women who wear larger sizes?
And what about women who, like my cousin, are getting their figure back after having a baby? Surely no one is suggesting that a pregnant woman is obese or unhealthy - are they?! A woman having her second baby in her thirties is going to need time to get back to her pre-baby figure. Is she supposed to look (and feel) frumpy and bad about herself indefinitely?
What about women like me? I don't mind a little exercise and sometimes order from the salad menu - but I really like chocolate, milkshakes and movie popcorn. I'll never, ever be thin - and at
36 my age, I think we can all agree I'll never be tall, either. So, muumuus and elastic-waisted pants are what - a punishment? Seems harsh.
|You feel better already, don't you?|
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I know obesity isn't a joke. It can wreak havoc on your health, and all statistics point to the problem getting worse, not better. But isn't emotional health just as critical? I struggle with self-esteem, and am willing to bet I'm not the only one. I know the criticsm is that you shouldn't rely on your looks, or other people's opinions, for your own self-worth. Yup, I get it. Certainly, I'm no expert - but I can speak from experience.
I'm more confident when I feel like I look good. And when I'm more confident, I'm better at handling stress; I'm more outgoing and therefore make friends more easily; I am more assertive and honest, which allows me to handle situations with more respect and better results. I'm a better me when I like how I look.
Isn't that what self-esteem is all about?