Stereotypes. I. Hate. Them.
I got thinking about that whole feminism issue a while back when someone pointed out that I'm a girlie-girl, as though it's a bad thing.
Here's the thing: I am a girlie-girl. Ask anyone - I even include that description of myself in online profiles. Anyone who looks at my facebook or twitter profiles for ten seconds can see I'm girlie. There's no point in hiding or denying it, and I wouldn't want to, anyway.
I figure - why should it matter? I guess some people take issue with the fact that, because I live up to (or down to?) some stereotypical female behavior, that must mean all stereotypes are true. So, if I like to shop for shoes and and get manicures, that must also mean that I always need a man, I'm scared of being alone and I can't take care of myself.
I can see why this might be frustrating. I've written about how people are surprised that I take care of my home all by lil' ol' self, and it is frustrating that people jump to the conclusion that I'm not capable, simply because I'm a woman. It's definitely detrimental to women that these stereotypes persist.
But, if letting those stereotypes rule us is the problem - then it seems like it's just as big a problem if we change who we are to avoid them. Let's just say that a woman is worried people will think less of her if she uses purple tools - so she buys gray ones instead. That woman has just let other people's beliefs, assumptions - and stereotypes - define who she is and the choices she makes.
Isn't it a stronger, more powerful statement to choose what you want and be who you are - regardless of what anyone else thinks?
Isn't it weak to make assumptions and jump to conclusions based on your own insecurities? To let stereotypes define you, or define how you see others?
I'm not perfect, but I am a pretty strong woman. Life has taught me how to take care of myself, be happy on my own and make my own choices.
I don't see how me doing any of that with a purple hammer makes me weak.