How does it feel to blog everyday?
I couldn't actually tell you. I don't have time to blog everyday. A lot of posts (even some for this project) are scheduled ahead of time, so I can write when I'm free to do so.
I'm also not crazy about writing prompts. Some questions, I really like. Some get me thinking, and writing, about things I wouldn't have come up with on my own. But some questions are just downright silly, and really not anything to which I can relate.
But, whatever - when I commit to a project like this, the big thing (in my mind) is to finish what I start. So I did.
Now I think I'll take December off.
Friday, November 30, 2012
Thursday, November 29, 2012
NaBloPoMo - New blogs
I'm always looking for new blogs to read. Reading blogs helps keep me sane during the workday, and entertained while I'm in waiting rooms or on trains.
Three new blogs I've found in the past year that I would recommend are:
Just Life: Take Two
Kateri von Steal comments here and on another blog I author. Her blog is fun to read, and fun to look at.
Courtney Sanik and then some
She's a friend of mine, who also writes elsewhere. I have long-enjoyed her "other" project, but this year really started paying attention to this blog, as well. She's wonderful and sparkly.
BlogHer
I'd heard of this site before, but never paid it much attention until I started doing this NaBloPoMo writing project.
Three new blogs I've found in the past year that I would recommend are:
Just Life: Take Two
Kateri von Steal comments here and on another blog I author. Her blog is fun to read, and fun to look at.
Courtney Sanik and then some
She's a friend of mine, who also writes elsewhere. I have long-enjoyed her "other" project, but this year really started paying attention to this blog, as well. She's wonderful and sparkly.
BlogHer
I'd heard of this site before, but never paid it much attention until I started doing this NaBloPoMo writing project.
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Worst trip
I have not traveled a lot. Well, at least not out of the country. I only left the US for the first time this past summer, when I went to Montreal (which is really, really close to where I live, anyway).
I have been to fourteen of the fifty states, plus Washington DC. Well, actually, two of those thirteen states were only drive-bys - I drove through on my way to another destination. I've also traveled to every corner of my own state (New York).
I'm supposed to talk about the worst trip I've ever taken. The truth is, doing that might hurt someone's feelings. Even more importantly, as bad as my worst trip ever was - there's always something good in every trip.
Traveling is supposed to be about finding new places, having new adventures, and learning new things about yourself. Even if a trip is awful, you probably learned something new you don't like (or may have even found one good thing that you do like).
I don't think anything can be all bad, if it gives you the chance to learn and grow and explore. Besides, it's all about making memories. Without the bad memories, how would we know to appreciate the good?
I have been to fourteen of the fifty states, plus Washington DC. Well, actually, two of those thirteen states were only drive-bys - I drove through on my way to another destination. I've also traveled to every corner of my own state (New York).
I'm supposed to talk about the worst trip I've ever taken. The truth is, doing that might hurt someone's feelings. Even more importantly, as bad as my worst trip ever was - there's always something good in every trip.
Traveling is supposed to be about finding new places, having new adventures, and learning new things about yourself. Even if a trip is awful, you probably learned something new you don't like (or may have even found one good thing that you do like).
I don't think anything can be all bad, if it gives you the chance to learn and grow and explore. Besides, it's all about making memories. Without the bad memories, how would we know to appreciate the good?
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
NaBloPoMo - More other languages
Today's writing prompt:
If you could instantly know any language in the world, which one would it be?Spanish - so that I didn't feel like I wasted all that time we talked about yesterday.
Monday, November 26, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Other languages
Today's question...
So I took Spanish all through high school, too. I was pretty good, so in college I registered for a course in Spanish Literature. That was where I learned I wasn't as good at Spanish as I thought.
I don't really speak it anymore.
Do you speak more than one language? How did you learn the additional languages?I used to speak pretty good Spanish. I learned in school. I took high school level Spanish in 8th grade. Turned out, to get a New York State Regents High School Diploma at that time, if I took five years of a language, I only needed to take two years of science.
So I took Spanish all through high school, too. I was pretty good, so in college I registered for a course in Spanish Literature. That was where I learned I wasn't as good at Spanish as I thought.
I don't really speak it anymore.
Friday, November 23, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Hardest thing to say
I'm usually not at a loss for words. Occasionally, I'll be caught off-guard. Like, if someone makes an especially nasty comment to my face, I might not have a snappy comeback right away, because I'm so shocked at the nastiness. Of course, I can usually come up with one later - a friend used to call that "delayed intelligence."
Mostly, though, I say whatever is on my mind - but with enough of an edit-chip so as not to be that nasty person. Mostly.
But even the most out-spoken and upfront person can have trouble saying some things. For me, the word that is toughest to say is, "No."
Even this isn't absolute, though. For example, I'm pretty good at telling my family no - no, I'm not available for dinner that night; no I don't want to come to that party; no, I won't be contributing to that gift. I am nice about it, but firm, and they understand. I was nervous the first time I said "no," but it got much easier after I realized they would still love me.
I'm also pretty good at saying no at work - no, I can't work late; no, I definitely can't come in early; no, I'm not going to do your job for you. At work, they need me more than I need them - and everyone knows this. Saying no is not as big a challenge as it once was.
I don't want it to sound like all I say is no. I actually say yes quite often, because I truly don't mind helping out, or putting in extra effort, or going out of my way for those I care about. I'm just saying in these cases, I could say no if I wanted.
So when can't I say no? Relationships.
I'm not saying I just roll over and let others treat me like a doormat. I certainly don't say yes to every invitation, or requests for money or favors. But I say yes more often than I might like, because I'm all about putting the feelings and needs of others before my own.
Truth be told, I don't think saying no is as difficult for me as it is to simply stick up for myself. So, I might not exactly say "no" to someone - but I don't always stick up for myself, or tell people my feelings are hurt, or just flat-out get up and walk away when I should.
It's something I am working on - a good balance of sticking up for myself, and still being a kind-hearted, compassionate, considerate friend. I wouldn't ever want to say no and compromise who I truly want to be.
Mostly, though, I say whatever is on my mind - but with enough of an edit-chip so as not to be that nasty person. Mostly.
But even the most out-spoken and upfront person can have trouble saying some things. For me, the word that is toughest to say is, "No."
Even this isn't absolute, though. For example, I'm pretty good at telling my family no - no, I'm not available for dinner that night; no I don't want to come to that party; no, I won't be contributing to that gift. I am nice about it, but firm, and they understand. I was nervous the first time I said "no," but it got much easier after I realized they would still love me.
I'm also pretty good at saying no at work - no, I can't work late; no, I definitely can't come in early; no, I'm not going to do your job for you. At work, they need me more than I need them - and everyone knows this. Saying no is not as big a challenge as it once was.
I don't want it to sound like all I say is no. I actually say yes quite often, because I truly don't mind helping out, or putting in extra effort, or going out of my way for those I care about. I'm just saying in these cases, I could say no if I wanted.
So when can't I say no? Relationships.
I'm not saying I just roll over and let others treat me like a doormat. I certainly don't say yes to every invitation, or requests for money or favors. But I say yes more often than I might like, because I'm all about putting the feelings and needs of others before my own.
Truth be told, I don't think saying no is as difficult for me as it is to simply stick up for myself. So, I might not exactly say "no" to someone - but I don't always stick up for myself, or tell people my feelings are hurt, or just flat-out get up and walk away when I should.
It's something I am working on - a good balance of sticking up for myself, and still being a kind-hearted, compassionate, considerate friend. I wouldn't ever want to say no and compromise who I truly want to be.
Thursday, November 22, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Tears of sadness
I cry a lot. Mostly happy tears; occasionally sad. Sometimes, I start out as sad, and then while I'm working through it, something positive happens, and I cry happy tears.
I'm a very emotional person.
I think the last time I cried, they were sad tears. Sad because I was judged by someone who I respect. The words, while intended as good advice, were harsh and stung of criticism.
A smart person once told me that "unsolicited advice is crticism." That's very true. When you offer someone advice that they didn't request, what you're basically saying is that you identified a need for them to improve. You found something they did wrong, and you're trying to correct them.
That's criticism. Even if you don't intend it that way, that is how it will be received.
I try very, very hard not to offer advice unless I'm asked. You can bet that I always have an opinion. If we've talked about it, I have definitely thought about it, processed it, and come up with what I think is the right answer.
Will I share that answer?
Not unless I'm asked.
Why? Because when I give advice, it comes from a place of genuine concern. I know I'm not better than anyone else. Even if I'm in a better place at the time - I was once right where that person is, and probably will be again. I am in no position to criticize.
But I might have good advice. I might be able to help. If I'm going to offer, that's how I want it be received.
I certainly don't want to make anyone cry.
I'm a very emotional person.
I think the last time I cried, they were sad tears. Sad because I was judged by someone who I respect. The words, while intended as good advice, were harsh and stung of criticism.
A smart person once told me that "unsolicited advice is crticism." That's very true. When you offer someone advice that they didn't request, what you're basically saying is that you identified a need for them to improve. You found something they did wrong, and you're trying to correct them.
That's criticism. Even if you don't intend it that way, that is how it will be received.
I try very, very hard not to offer advice unless I'm asked. You can bet that I always have an opinion. If we've talked about it, I have definitely thought about it, processed it, and come up with what I think is the right answer.
Will I share that answer?
Not unless I'm asked.
Why? Because when I give advice, it comes from a place of genuine concern. I know I'm not better than anyone else. Even if I'm in a better place at the time - I was once right where that person is, and probably will be again. I am in no position to criticize.
But I might have good advice. I might be able to help. If I'm going to offer, that's how I want it be received.
I certainly don't want to make anyone cry.
Wednesday, November 21, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Where do I read?
The question for today
Basically, it isn't where - it's when.
Where is your favorite place to read?In bed; on my sofa; outside on lunch; at my desk when I need a sanity break.
Basically, it isn't where - it's when.
Retail thanks
I keep seeing a lot of posts from people saying they will avoid shopping Thanksgiving Day sales because if they're shopping, someone is working, and if someone is working, that someone isn't with his or her family.
I get it; your family loves Thanksgiving. It's full of warmth and love and good food and laughter and football and family time. Yay. But not everyone feels the same. So before you judge big retailers or other shoppers, consider a few things. Such as...
But if people want to spend their holiday shopping, I say have at it. Spending money supports the economy. It keeps people you're not even thinking about employed, with food on their table, heat in their homes, and kids with smiles on Christmas morning.
That's worth some thanks.
I get it; your family loves Thanksgiving. It's full of warmth and love and good food and laughter and football and family time. Yay. But not everyone feels the same. So before you judge big retailers or other shoppers, consider a few things. Such as...
- This isn't new. Just because certain retailers are open earlier this year than in years past doesn't mean they invented the concept. Have you ever run out of milk or napkins before putting the final touches on the big meal? I have - and boy was I thankful that the nearest grocery store was open. The sign on the door said they were closing at 3 so their employees could enjoy the holiday.
- Which brings up an interesting point. A lot of families eat early on Thanksgiving. Having worked in retail for a long time, I can tell you - they will go nuts tonight fixing things just so, allowing employees to arrive at work tomorrow at the very last second. If the store opens at 8 pm, those employees had time to enjoy a holiday that started at 9 am.
- You're forgetting why these people have these jobs in the first place - to earn money. Stores pay time-and-a-half on holidays; full-time employees will make double-time-and-a-half because they get paid for the holiday, too. That's like earning half a weeks pay check in one day. What would you do with that money this time of year? A lot of those employees are thankful for the chance to earn a little extra.
- The other employees? Those are college and high school students just thankful for a chance to escape their dysfunctional family on the most awkward and mind-numbingly boring night of the year. Trust me. I was one.
- Those retailers you're avoiding because of how they're treating their employees on this one day? Some of them treat their employees terribly all year long - and you're still giving them your money. Joke's on you.
- How about all those holidays that you don't celebrate, where someone is "stuck" working so you can be shopping?
But if people want to spend their holiday shopping, I say have at it. Spending money supports the economy. It keeps people you're not even thinking about employed, with food on their table, heat in their homes, and kids with smiles on Christmas morning.
That's worth some thanks.
Tuesday, November 20, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Favorite book
I read a lot. When I was married, we had an entire room devoted to books. In fact, we had to design the shelves ourselves, to make sure we had enough room.
Now, storage is at more of a premium for me, and I keep my books in my Nook, for the most part. I read books by James Patterson and Janet Evanovich (whose newest Stephanie Plum novel comes out today!).
But my favorite book of all time? To Kill a Mockingbird.
If you're not familiar with the story - you've apparently been living under a rock for your whole life. I can help. You're welcome.
The book is narrated by Scout, a young girl whose given name is Jean Louise Finch. She tells us the story of how she and her older brother, Jem, came to meet up with a mysterious neighbor, about whom the whole town had made assumptions. He turns out to be none of the things they thought.
The backdrop for the story is Scout's father, Atticus, defending a client in criminal court. Atticus is a white lawyer, defending a black man, accused of raping a white woman. In the south, in 1931.
There's a ton of lessons in the book. I'm no English professor, and I won't even bother trying to pretend like I understand all the symbolism or literary techniques used by the author, Harper Lee.
What I learned from To Kill a Mockingbird:
Now, storage is at more of a premium for me, and I keep my books in my Nook, for the most part. I read books by James Patterson and Janet Evanovich (whose newest Stephanie Plum novel comes out today!).
But my favorite book of all time? To Kill a Mockingbird.
If you're not familiar with the story - you've apparently been living under a rock for your whole life. I can help. You're welcome.
The book is narrated by Scout, a young girl whose given name is Jean Louise Finch. She tells us the story of how she and her older brother, Jem, came to meet up with a mysterious neighbor, about whom the whole town had made assumptions. He turns out to be none of the things they thought.
The backdrop for the story is Scout's father, Atticus, defending a client in criminal court. Atticus is a white lawyer, defending a black man, accused of raping a white woman. In the south, in 1931.
There's a ton of lessons in the book. I'm no English professor, and I won't even bother trying to pretend like I understand all the symbolism or literary techniques used by the author, Harper Lee.
What I learned from To Kill a Mockingbird:
- There is no room in my life for prejudice of any kind.
- Words are powerful and should be chosen carefully.
- "People are people, no matter where you put them." - Harper Lee in a 1961 interview.
- "It's a sin to kill a mockingbird...mockingbirds don't do one thing but sing their hearts out for us." - From Chapter 10. Evil destroys innocence, but it is should still be preserved. We all have a "moral imperative to protect the vulnerable." Help when you can, give what you have.
Monday, November 19, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Locked in?
I dislike the question
If you had to be locked in some place (amusement park, book store, etc) overnight alone, where would you choose?I wouldn't - because that's creepy. Don't you people watch horror movies?
Friday, November 16, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Dream house
The question for today is
It's more like a nightmare.
Would you buy your dream house if the price was right, but you also were told it was inhabited by ghosts?This question makes no sense for me, because "not haunted" is one of my top ten criteria for dream house. Right along with (in no particular order):
- Not near a cemetery
- Not built on an ancient Indian burial ground
- Not infested with snakes
- Not lacking central air
- Not having well water
- Not without an available cable connection
- Not split level
- Not too far away to shops and businesses
- Not on too much land to shovel/rake
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So, no, regardless of price, I would not buy a house that was haunted - because it's not my dream house.
Thursday, November 15, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Favorite pet
Real pet owners are like parents - we don't choose favorites.
When I'm asked if I have any pets, I usually say that, yes, I have three - two cats who live with me, and a dog who lives in heaven.
Remy was always happy to see me, and I don't think I ever came into our home when he didn't greet me. He loved me even when I let water boil over on the stove, or didn't make the bed, or grabbed clothes out of the hamper because I didn't feel like putting laundry away.
He curled up next to me when I was sick, or scared, or sad. He kept me warm in the winter - and was the best excuse I ever had for turning on the AC in the summer.
Remy wasn't like other dogs. He didn't like to go for walks. He never wanted to run outside, or dig in the yard. Mostly, he wanted to hang out on the sofa and watch movies or sports on TV. He let the cats play and jump and even lick him and lay on him. He ate when he was supposed to, never complained, and only had a handful of accidents in his 14+ years.
He had his own personality. He knew when he was in trouble. He knew that even though X was immune to the puppy-dog eyes - I was not. He would get upset when our schedules changed, and we would come home later, or be gone more - and he wasn't afraid to show his displeasure.
Remy's love was unconditional. He didn't see flaws or mistakes or excuses. He saw the good in everyone who passed through our door. I've never had a more devoted, happy, laid-back, or well-adjusted friend. I miss him every day.
Remy taught me what kind of person I want to be. I'm grateful he always thought I already was that person.
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Remy was always happy to see me, and I don't think I ever came into our home when he didn't greet me. He loved me even when I let water boil over on the stove, or didn't make the bed, or grabbed clothes out of the hamper because I didn't feel like putting laundry away.
He curled up next to me when I was sick, or scared, or sad. He kept me warm in the winter - and was the best excuse I ever had for turning on the AC in the summer.
Remy wasn't like other dogs. He didn't like to go for walks. He never wanted to run outside, or dig in the yard. Mostly, he wanted to hang out on the sofa and watch movies or sports on TV. He let the cats play and jump and even lick him and lay on him. He ate when he was supposed to, never complained, and only had a handful of accidents in his 14+ years.
He had his own personality. He knew when he was in trouble. He knew that even though X was immune to the puppy-dog eyes - I was not. He would get upset when our schedules changed, and we would come home later, or be gone more - and he wasn't afraid to show his displeasure.
Remy's love was unconditional. He didn't see flaws or mistakes or excuses. He saw the good in everyone who passed through our door. I've never had a more devoted, happy, laid-back, or well-adjusted friend. I miss him every day.
Remy taught me what kind of person I want to be. I'm grateful he always thought I already was that person.
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Cooking
Today's writing prompt is
I'm just not. I can cook enough to get by, and have made a few somewhat successful holiday meals.
But I don't honestly think I've ever made a "good" meal.
I'm OK with that, too. When I got married, I had the foresight to choose a husband who could cook. After he moved out, I was smart enough to move in a housemate who can also cook. I have friends and family who can cook, and because I'm single and (they think) helpless, they're constantly giving me free food.
I don't think they realize that grocery stores and restaurants are happy to prepare meals for me in exchange for money - but that's fine. I'll gladly accept free food.
The less money I spend on groceries, the more I have left for important stuff.
Tell us about the best meal you've ever cooked.This question is clearly not meant for me - since I don't cook. Notice I didn't say I "can't" cook - because I'm sure I could if I was so inclined.
I'm just not. I can cook enough to get by, and have made a few somewhat successful holiday meals.
But I don't honestly think I've ever made a "good" meal.
I'm OK with that, too. When I got married, I had the foresight to choose a husband who could cook. After he moved out, I was smart enough to move in a housemate who can also cook. I have friends and family who can cook, and because I'm single and (they think) helpless, they're constantly giving me free food.
I don't think they realize that grocery stores and restaurants are happy to prepare meals for me in exchange for money - but that's fine. I'll gladly accept free food.
The less money I spend on groceries, the more I have left for important stuff.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
The God I pray to
Unless you pay this blog undevoted attention, or stalk my foursquare check-ins, you might never guess that I attend a (non-denominational) Christian service every week. I don't really discuss the services with anyone. In fact, I barely even mention that I go, unless it's in passing (if someone asks what I did on Saturday, I might say "I went to church"). I'm certainly not your stereotypical Christian.
One of the messages we get a lot is that we should not be ashamed of our faith. That we should be proud of our relationship with God, and spread his word.
That isn't the only message I've ever heard at church with which I disagree.
Religious people often wonder why others dislike religion so much. Well - as a person who spent most of her adult life shunning religion - I'll tell you: It's because religious people often come across as pompous, arrogant jerks.
I'm not talking about a Pastor. If people know your job is to spread God's message, and they show up to your service, or read your book or your blog, or watch your service on TV - then obviously, they're looking for the message.
I'm not even talking if you share the occasional message on facebook. If you're doing that, your friends know your deal, and they either accept that about you, or they've hidden your updates. Either way - I say rock on.
But even I - someone who actively seeks out God's message - have very little patience for sneak-attack preaching. You know what I mean - sending people links in email, texts with bible versus - particularly those that question my own faith or my own actions.
That's what "non-religious" people dislike about religion. The in-your-face, my-way-is-better attitude is, quite frankly, a turn-off.
See, I don't agree with everything my church says. In fact, there have been several times when, if I hadn't been trapped dead-center of a packed aisle, I would have gotten up and left in the middle of a message.
I think a relationship with God is, to an extent, a relationship with yourself. It's private - and I think it works differently for everyone. I believe in the overall message of my church - helping the community, finding strength through faith, building hope, treating others with kindness. Those are good things, and messages I can get behind.
But a lot of the message is washed in traditional, Christian beliefs - with which I most definitely do not agree.
The God I know is one of love, compassion, and forgiveness. He did not create us to judge or oppress or be unfair to one another. He would not want us to force our personal beliefs on each other. He would want each of us to use our own talents to shape and share His message. He would expect each of us to do that in a way that blends with who He has created us to be.
In other words: He expects the underlying mesage to be the same - but also expects it'll be delivered in different ways by different people.
He would not expect all of us to "preach" or "teach" His word. Some get that calling, and study and learn and then share. But most of us don't know His word well enough. The truth is, His word comes from the Bible, which is really just a collection of stories that are left open to interpretation. So no one is really an "expert." To say you are is to say your relationship with God is stronger or more imporant than someone else's.
There's that pompous arrogance I was talking about.
If you're shoving His word in people's faces when they didn't ask, and using it to pass judgment, then in my opinion, you're actually doing His word a disservice. The God I know would not want us judging one another - because that's His job. The God I know has a personal relationship with each of us, that works in its own way. He knows our heart and our mind and our intentions, and that is what He will use to judge.
Not the opinions of others.
I do and believe in a lot of things that the Bible (supposedly) says I shouldn't. My God created me this way. That is His image of who I am, and staying true to that is how I stay true to Him.
It does not make you right and me wrong. It makes us different. Which is OK - because the God I pray to created both of us that way.
One of the messages we get a lot is that we should not be ashamed of our faith. That we should be proud of our relationship with God, and spread his word.
That isn't the only message I've ever heard at church with which I disagree.
Religious people often wonder why others dislike religion so much. Well - as a person who spent most of her adult life shunning religion - I'll tell you: It's because religious people often come across as pompous, arrogant jerks.
I'm not talking about a Pastor. If people know your job is to spread God's message, and they show up to your service, or read your book or your blog, or watch your service on TV - then obviously, they're looking for the message.
I'm not even talking if you share the occasional message on facebook. If you're doing that, your friends know your deal, and they either accept that about you, or they've hidden your updates. Either way - I say rock on.
But even I - someone who actively seeks out God's message - have very little patience for sneak-attack preaching. You know what I mean - sending people links in email, texts with bible versus - particularly those that question my own faith or my own actions.
That's what "non-religious" people dislike about religion. The in-your-face, my-way-is-better attitude is, quite frankly, a turn-off.
See, I don't agree with everything my church says. In fact, there have been several times when, if I hadn't been trapped dead-center of a packed aisle, I would have gotten up and left in the middle of a message.
I think a relationship with God is, to an extent, a relationship with yourself. It's private - and I think it works differently for everyone. I believe in the overall message of my church - helping the community, finding strength through faith, building hope, treating others with kindness. Those are good things, and messages I can get behind.
But a lot of the message is washed in traditional, Christian beliefs - with which I most definitely do not agree.
The God I know is one of love, compassion, and forgiveness. He did not create us to judge or oppress or be unfair to one another. He would not want us to force our personal beliefs on each other. He would want each of us to use our own talents to shape and share His message. He would expect each of us to do that in a way that blends with who He has created us to be.
In other words: He expects the underlying mesage to be the same - but also expects it'll be delivered in different ways by different people.
He would not expect all of us to "preach" or "teach" His word. Some get that calling, and study and learn and then share. But most of us don't know His word well enough. The truth is, His word comes from the Bible, which is really just a collection of stories that are left open to interpretation. So no one is really an "expert." To say you are is to say your relationship with God is stronger or more imporant than someone else's.
There's that pompous arrogance I was talking about.
If you're shoving His word in people's faces when they didn't ask, and using it to pass judgment, then in my opinion, you're actually doing His word a disservice. The God I know would not want us judging one another - because that's His job. The God I know has a personal relationship with each of us, that works in its own way. He knows our heart and our mind and our intentions, and that is what He will use to judge.
Not the opinions of others.
I do and believe in a lot of things that the Bible (supposedly) says I shouldn't. My God created me this way. That is His image of who I am, and staying true to that is how I stay true to Him.
It does not make you right and me wrong. It makes us different. Which is OK - because the God I pray to created both of us that way.
NaBloPoMo - Bravest thing
Today's writing prompt:
Life is full of moments that test our courage. As you go through life, you realize that the things you once thought were difficult, were really not that bad. Remember as a teenager when everything was the end of the world? Then you got to your twenties, and the stuff you dealt with as a teen looked like a walk in the park. By the time you hit your thirties, you start to realize that the stuff you thought was so brave and wonderful in your twenties was really just a dry run for when life starts to get real.
Everyone is tested in different ways. Some of us are tested with how much family stress we can handle. Some of us battle health issues. Some have financial problems. Others have relationship issues. Some get it all (or at least, think they do). No one set of problems is greater than another. If someone seems to never have problems, remember - we all get what we can handle.
For some of us, the ultimate struggle comes when we're very young; others don't struggle with anything until we're much older. Usually, we think we know exactly what our greatest challenge could be, and we've got a plan in place to handle. Then, without warning, life pivots, and throws us something we never thought we'd have to catch.
When that happens, we have two choices. Fold under the pressure, and give up. Or make a decision that no matter what, we will survive.
So the bravest thing I've ever done is probably the bravest thing that every one of us has ever done:
What is the bravest thing you've ever done?I really have no idea. Getting married? Getting divorced? Buying my house the first time - or the second, on my own? Going to college, then looking for a job? Dating? Or choosing to be single when everyone around me expects me to be dating? Changing careers? Or maybe it was asking my huge crush to the Homecoming dance senior year (he said no)?
Life is full of moments that test our courage. As you go through life, you realize that the things you once thought were difficult, were really not that bad. Remember as a teenager when everything was the end of the world? Then you got to your twenties, and the stuff you dealt with as a teen looked like a walk in the park. By the time you hit your thirties, you start to realize that the stuff you thought was so brave and wonderful in your twenties was really just a dry run for when life starts to get real.
Everyone is tested in different ways. Some of us are tested with how much family stress we can handle. Some of us battle health issues. Some have financial problems. Others have relationship issues. Some get it all (or at least, think they do). No one set of problems is greater than another. If someone seems to never have problems, remember - we all get what we can handle.
For some of us, the ultimate struggle comes when we're very young; others don't struggle with anything until we're much older. Usually, we think we know exactly what our greatest challenge could be, and we've got a plan in place to handle. Then, without warning, life pivots, and throws us something we never thought we'd have to catch.
When that happens, we have two choices. Fold under the pressure, and give up. Or make a decision that no matter what, we will survive.
So the bravest thing I've ever done is probably the bravest thing that every one of us has ever done:
I hit rock bottom.
Then I picked myself up, dusted myself off, and kept moving forward.
Monday, November 12, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Favorite place to blog
I occasionally blog at work. I find it relaxing to step outside the craziness on my desk and take some time to focus on writing.
When I'm home, I'll blog anywhere. The sofa, my bed, the deck. The one thing I don't like is a lot of noise distracting me. Mostly my home is quiet, and I can go anywhere and find enough peace to crank out a little inspiration.
When I hit a blogging wall, I usually turn on the TV, or get out of the house to distract myself. Going to the gym, or a walk, or just a drive will clear my head enough and get me back on track.
Of course, then I'm not near my netbook. That's when I start sending emails to myself on my phone with blog ideas.
When I'm home, I'll blog anywhere. The sofa, my bed, the deck. The one thing I don't like is a lot of noise distracting me. Mostly my home is quiet, and I can go anywhere and find enough peace to crank out a little inspiration.
When I hit a blogging wall, I usually turn on the TV, or get out of the house to distract myself. Going to the gym, or a walk, or just a drive will clear my head enough and get me back on track.
Of course, then I'm not near my netbook. That's when I start sending emails to myself on my phone with blog ideas.
Friday, November 9, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Life changes
I feel like I've been in a constant state of change for the last four years. Divorce isn't easy; neither is transitioning to a new job after more than nine years because of a buy-out. Buying a house and a new car on your own are also pretty stressful.
And that was just the first eight months.
It's taken me this long, but I've recently been feeling like I'm finally turning a corner.
About a week ago, I had my tarot cards read. The cards showed that every aspect of my life is in a season of change and growth. They showed a recent loss that forced my hand, and triggered a lot of very positive choices and opportunities.
The cards also showed that a lot of this change is out of my control, and does not look the way I was expecting. They correctly predicted that this is intimidating to me. But - they also showed that if I keep myself open to the changes, there's a lot of good opportunities in every aspect of my future.
That's all good news. I suppose if I had to pick one area of my life that I'd really like to change, it would be relationships. I honestly hate to admit that here, but if I feel like I'd be lying if I said anything else, and I'd hate lying even more.
I'm not talking about a superficial change, like I'd really like a date for New Year's Eve (though that's true enough). I'm looking for a fundamental change; a complete overhaul of how I view and manage relationships, and how I fit them into my life.
I want to figure out (and accept) the sort of relationship that I want. Then I want to learn how to make choices that will get me where I want to be.
The problem with changing this part of my life is ultimately, it is outside my control. I can make all the good choices I want; I still can't force the right person to walk into my life, fall hopelessly in love, and then live happily ever after with me.
I suppose the thing to do is concentrate on the things that are within my control. Like - just what does my happily ever after look like, anyway?
I'm working on it.
And that was just the first eight months.
It's taken me this long, but I've recently been feeling like I'm finally turning a corner.
About a week ago, I had my tarot cards read. The cards showed that every aspect of my life is in a season of change and growth. They showed a recent loss that forced my hand, and triggered a lot of very positive choices and opportunities.
The cards also showed that a lot of this change is out of my control, and does not look the way I was expecting. They correctly predicted that this is intimidating to me. But - they also showed that if I keep myself open to the changes, there's a lot of good opportunities in every aspect of my future.
That's all good news. I suppose if I had to pick one area of my life that I'd really like to change, it would be relationships. I honestly hate to admit that here, but if I feel like I'd be lying if I said anything else, and I'd hate lying even more.
I'm not talking about a superficial change, like I'd really like a date for New Year's Eve (though that's true enough). I'm looking for a fundamental change; a complete overhaul of how I view and manage relationships, and how I fit them into my life.
I want to figure out (and accept) the sort of relationship that I want. Then I want to learn how to make choices that will get me where I want to be.
The problem with changing this part of my life is ultimately, it is outside my control. I can make all the good choices I want; I still can't force the right person to walk into my life, fall hopelessly in love, and then live happily ever after with me.
I suppose the thing to do is concentrate on the things that are within my control. Like - just what does my happily ever after look like, anyway?
I'm working on it.
Thursday, November 8, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Dream job
My dream job has always been to be a professional writer. I suppose technically, I am, since I make money from some of my writing. But I don't earn a living as a blogger; I barely earn spending money.
I suppose it would be easy enough to turn writing into my career. At this point, I could just tell people that's what I do; eventually, that's how people would see me, and - BAM! I'm a writer.
The trick is to actually earn enough money from writing to pay my bills. A little more difficult.
My bills are big. Writing earnings are not - at least, not at first, and there's no guarantee they ever would be.
So, I suppose in reality, my dream job is one that pays my bills, and fills my closet. Which makes my current job a dream job.
Or a nightmare.
I suppose it would be easy enough to turn writing into my career. At this point, I could just tell people that's what I do; eventually, that's how people would see me, and - BAM! I'm a writer.
The trick is to actually earn enough money from writing to pay my bills. A little more difficult.
My bills are big. Writing earnings are not - at least, not at first, and there's no guarantee they ever would be.
So, I suppose in reality, my dream job is one that pays my bills, and fills my closet. Which makes my current job a dream job.
Or a nightmare.
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Compliments
But I try - and I'm improving.
I've gotten a few compliments recently. One that comes immediately to mind is when I posted a new photo of myself on facebook, so that I could make it my profile picture. Right away, a bunch of people "liked" the photo, and several left very nice comments.
I'll be honest - I hate my picture, and it's very hard for me to find one I'm willing to share. I took this one myself, with the front-facing camera on my phone, in a bathroom (with a wall as my background) because it was the only room at the (obviously Halloween-costume) party with sufficient light. I had to take the photo then because after I went to bed, I would no longer be sporting the feathers, sparkles, or makeup.
I'd just as soon upload a new profile photo without facebook making a big production. But these days, facebook turns everything into an event, so there's really no way around the post. It's even worse on my phone app, and by the time I can delete the post, I'll already have comment and/or likes, and at that point deleting just seems rude.
Plus, I appreciate the compliments. I think most people would just not say anything if they didn't have something nice to say. The compliments come across as sincere, and that is very easy to appreciate.
I suppose receiving compliments is something that takes practice - and that's just as good a way as any for me to keep improving.
Tuesday, November 6, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Presidential actions
Today, we elect a President. Fabulous. Now we can all go back to normal, and argue about important things like the Kardashians and X-Factor.
I'm not sure I could do the President's job. I mean - that's a crap-ton of pressure. I have respect for anyone who can take his personal beliefs, set them aside, and do what's best for everyone as a whole. I'm not sure I could.
I understand our economy is tanked and our foreign policy needs a lot of work. Some decisions need to be made - and as President, that's something I would delegate. Trust me - you don't want me in charge when it comes to that stuff . I can barely even balance my own checkbook.
As far as social issues... I guess I'd want to look at making sure that people's rights are protected in the Constitution. Take the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) for instance.
My opinion on same-sex marriage* aside, I have a real problem with the Constitution being used as a vehicle to take away rights. I prefer to think of it as a way to ensure and protect rights.
Truth be told, I think the Federal Government should keep its nose out of marriage. Since DOMA - a conservative initiative - put that nose where it doesn't belong, I think the government is obligated to make sure rights of all citizens are protected, at least as far as the Constitution is concerned.
I'm not gay, so I have no personal interest in protecting gay rights. But even if what matters to me personally is different than what matters to the next person - the point is, we all have personal rights that need protecting.
If I can't trust my government to protect the rights of my friends - how can I trust my government to protect my rights?
The answer is - I can't. I think the government needs to do whatever it can to reassure all people that their rights are just as imporant as the next person's.
*All that said - love is love. No one knows better than me how damn-near-impossible it is to find good, honest, pure, sincere love. I can't for the life of me wrap my mind around any belief that love should be restricted.
If two grown, unattached, (mostly) sane people capable of making their own decisions can find love - who is anyone else to judge? Now cut it out.
I'm not sure I could do the President's job. I mean - that's a crap-ton of pressure. I have respect for anyone who can take his personal beliefs, set them aside, and do what's best for everyone as a whole. I'm not sure I could.
I understand our economy is tanked and our foreign policy needs a lot of work. Some decisions need to be made - and as President, that's something I would delegate. Trust me - you don't want me in charge when it comes to that stuff . I can barely even balance my own checkbook.
As far as social issues... I guess I'd want to look at making sure that people's rights are protected in the Constitution. Take the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) for instance.
My opinion on same-sex marriage* aside, I have a real problem with the Constitution being used as a vehicle to take away rights. I prefer to think of it as a way to ensure and protect rights.
Truth be told, I think the Federal Government should keep its nose out of marriage. Since DOMA - a conservative initiative - put that nose where it doesn't belong, I think the government is obligated to make sure rights of all citizens are protected, at least as far as the Constitution is concerned.
I'm not gay, so I have no personal interest in protecting gay rights. But even if what matters to me personally is different than what matters to the next person - the point is, we all have personal rights that need protecting.
If I can't trust my government to protect the rights of my friends - how can I trust my government to protect my rights?
The answer is - I can't. I think the government needs to do whatever it can to reassure all people that their rights are just as imporant as the next person's.
*All that said - love is love. No one knows better than me how damn-near-impossible it is to find good, honest, pure, sincere love. I can't for the life of me wrap my mind around any belief that love should be restricted.
If two grown, unattached, (mostly) sane people capable of making their own decisions can find love - who is anyone else to judge? Now cut it out.
Monday, November 5, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Election thoughts
Tomorrow is Election Day. This being a leap year, we're choosing a President for the next four years.
All I have to say is - thank goodness it's almost over.
I am tired of all the political rants on facebook, and in my office. I don't care what your political beliefs are - you're entitled to them, same way I'm entitled to mine. But if you can't be civil and nice, at least be quiet.
We all have different priorities. What's really important to me might be less important to someone else. It doesn't make either of us wrong.
What makes people wrong is when they flat-out refuse to accept that someone else might have a point, even when disagreeing.
What makes people wrong is when they resort to name-calling, pointing fingers, placing blame without solutions, and perhaps even getting a little mean and/or violent. That's wrong.
At the end of the day, all that really matters is that you choose what you feel is important, find a candidate that makes sense, and cast your vote.
Because if you don't vote - you can't bitch. We all know how hard I'll fight to protect my right to complain.
All I have to say is - thank goodness it's almost over.
I am tired of all the political rants on facebook, and in my office. I don't care what your political beliefs are - you're entitled to them, same way I'm entitled to mine. But if you can't be civil and nice, at least be quiet.
We all have different priorities. What's really important to me might be less important to someone else. It doesn't make either of us wrong.
What makes people wrong is when they flat-out refuse to accept that someone else might have a point, even when disagreeing.
What makes people wrong is when they resort to name-calling, pointing fingers, placing blame without solutions, and perhaps even getting a little mean and/or violent. That's wrong.
At the end of the day, all that really matters is that you choose what you feel is important, find a candidate that makes sense, and cast your vote.
Because if you don't vote - you can't bitch. We all know how hard I'll fight to protect my right to complain.
Friday, November 2, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Where to live
"If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?"
It's a popular question, and people love to come up with fancy answers that they think sound cool. A big city like Manhattan or Paris, or a cabin in the woods, or somewhere warm or tropical.
The truth is, at some point in our lives, we all have the chance to make this exact choice become a reality. Maybe it's right out of school, or just after marriage, or after a divorce or another life change. At some point, we can all decide to change it up, and move away from wherever it is we landed.
I chose to stay right in the same place. My dad is here, and X and I made our home here to be close to him. I could move now - but I haven't, and I have no plans.
Could that change? Of course. I might move for my career; truthfully, the most likely reason I'd ever move would be if I found the love of my life, and had to move to be with him.
But at this very moment, I could choose to live anywhere I want - and I choose right where I am.
It's a popular question, and people love to come up with fancy answers that they think sound cool. A big city like Manhattan or Paris, or a cabin in the woods, or somewhere warm or tropical.
The truth is, at some point in our lives, we all have the chance to make this exact choice become a reality. Maybe it's right out of school, or just after marriage, or after a divorce or another life change. At some point, we can all decide to change it up, and move away from wherever it is we landed.
I chose to stay right in the same place. My dad is here, and X and I made our home here to be close to him. I could move now - but I haven't, and I have no plans.
Could that change? Of course. I might move for my career; truthfully, the most likely reason I'd ever move would be if I found the love of my life, and had to move to be with him.
But at this very moment, I could choose to live anywhere I want - and I choose right where I am.
Thursday, November 1, 2012
NaBloPoMo - Favorite quote
Anyone who knows me will tell you I love a good quote. I speak in quotes often, and can come up with something that applies to just about any situation.
My inspiration for quotes? Maya Angelou, Marilyn Monroe, Sex and the City, George Carlin, Disney, and movies - to name a few.
I have two favorites (actually, I have more than that, but I'm picking two)...
I found this quote on a painted wooden plaque. I hung it in the hall, where I see it every morning when I leave my bedroom.
Most of us don't give ourselves enough credit for being brave, strong, or smart. I was one of those people - and this quote reminds me I deserve more credit.
My other favorite quote?
Seriously.
My inspiration for quotes? Maya Angelou, Marilyn Monroe, Sex and the City, George Carlin, Disney, and movies - to name a few.
I have two favorites (actually, I have more than that, but I'm picking two)...
"There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." ~ Winnie the Pooh by A.A. MilneWhy is that my favorite? After my divorce, I decided I needed to do take the gagillion framed photos of me and X off the walls. Replacing the pictures was easier than removing the hardware and spackling and painting, so I headed to a booth at a local craft fair, in search of replacement art.
I found this quote on a painted wooden plaque. I hung it in the hall, where I see it every morning when I leave my bedroom.
Most of us don't give ourselves enough credit for being brave, strong, or smart. I was one of those people - and this quote reminds me I deserve more credit.
My other favorite quote?
"Here's all you need to know about men and women: Women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid." ~ When Will Jesus Bring the Pork Chops by George CarlinWhy is that my favorite? I've been divorced and dating for nearly four years, and I haven't found a more accurate way to describe the relationship between men and women.
Seriously.
NaBloPoMo - A November project
Writing challenges are all over the blogosphere. The intent is to inpire bloggers to write every day. I don't write every day, for the simple fact that I don't have time every day. But I do write whenever I can, and I love a good bit of inspiration.
My friend turned me on to the NaBloPoMo prompts over at BlogHer.
Thursday, November 1, 2012
Tell us your favorite quotation and why.
Friday, November 2, 2012
If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
Monday, November 5, 2012
What are your thoughts about tomorrow's election in the United States?
Tuesday, November 6, 2012
If you were President of the United States, what would be your first act in office?
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Talk about the last compliment you received.
Thursday, November 8, 2012
If you could have any job (and instantly have the training and qualifications to do it), which job would you want?
Friday, November 9, 2012
If you could change one thing about your life right now, what would it be?
Monday, November 12, 2012
Where is your favorite place to blog?
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
What is the bravest thing you've ever done?
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
Tell us about the best meal you ever cooked.
Thursday, November 15, 2012
Tell us about your favorite pet.
Friday, November 16, 2012
Would you buy your dream house if the price was right BUT you also were told it was inhabited by ghosts?
Monday, November 19, 2012
If you had to get locked in some place (book store, amusement park, etc) overnight alone, where would you choose to be locked in?
Tuesday, November 20, 2012
Talk about the opening of your favorite book.
Wednesday, November 21, 2012
Where is your favorite place to read?
Thursday, November 22, 2012
When was the last time that you cried? Why?
Friday, November 23, 2012
What is the hardest word for you to say?
Monday, November 26, 2012
Do you speak more than one language? How did you learn the additional languages?
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
If you could instantly know any language in the world, which one would it be?
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
Tell us about the worst trip you ever took.
Thursday, November 29, 2012
Tell us about three new blogs you found this year.
Friday, November 30, 2012
What has been the hardest part about blogging daily?
Shall we? OK. If you're interested in seeing what other participants are posting, click here.
My friend turned me on to the NaBloPoMo prompts over at BlogHer.
Thursday, November 1, 2012
Tell us your favorite quotation and why.
Friday, November 2, 2012
If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
Monday, November 5, 2012
What are your thoughts about tomorrow's election in the United States?
Tuesday, November 6, 2012
If you were President of the United States, what would be your first act in office?
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Talk about the last compliment you received.
Thursday, November 8, 2012
If you could have any job (and instantly have the training and qualifications to do it), which job would you want?
Friday, November 9, 2012
If you could change one thing about your life right now, what would it be?
Monday, November 12, 2012
Where is your favorite place to blog?
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
What is the bravest thing you've ever done?
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
Tell us about the best meal you ever cooked.
Thursday, November 15, 2012
Tell us about your favorite pet.
Friday, November 16, 2012
Would you buy your dream house if the price was right BUT you also were told it was inhabited by ghosts?
Monday, November 19, 2012
If you had to get locked in some place (book store, amusement park, etc) overnight alone, where would you choose to be locked in?
Tuesday, November 20, 2012
Talk about the opening of your favorite book.
Wednesday, November 21, 2012
Where is your favorite place to read?
Thursday, November 22, 2012
When was the last time that you cried? Why?
Friday, November 23, 2012
What is the hardest word for you to say?
Monday, November 26, 2012
Do you speak more than one language? How did you learn the additional languages?
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
If you could instantly know any language in the world, which one would it be?
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
Tell us about the worst trip you ever took.
Thursday, November 29, 2012
Tell us about three new blogs you found this year.
Friday, November 30, 2012
What has been the hardest part about blogging daily?
Shall we? OK. If you're interested in seeing what other participants are posting, click here.
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