Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Song in Your Heart

"It's easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend." William Blake

It hurts when you hang on to someone longer than you should. To excuse hurtful words or actions. To get your hopes up when you spend time together, or have a good conversation. You think to yourself, "See? It's all going to be fine." You might even defend the other person to your friends, who have quietly observed what you don't want to admit.

The relationship is over.

Yes, it's definitely sad when this happens. The thing is, you always think about how it might happen with a love interest. If you've already had your heart broken, you may even be on guard for it when it comes to new loves.

But what about when a friendship ends this way?

In a way, it almost hurts more. Your guard is probably not up. Especially not with your best friend, one who you let into your life, and into your home. One who you trusted with every secret, every tear.

Just like with any relationship, it's hard to know when you should hold on, when you should fight - and when it's time to let go. When it's time to smile, say goodbye and try to remember all the good times you had, and the lessons you learned.

After all, there's no way that this amazing person came into your life for no reason. She taught you how to laugh and smile; she was there for you during some of the toughest moments, she helped you find your way and create your independence.

If this is the end of your friendship, file it away, but don't throw it away. No matter what has happened or what's been said, there's no possible way you can repay what the friendship has done for you.

She helped you learn the song in your heart, when you realized you had forgotten the words. 


  1. HUG I'm sorry. Sometimes friendships have to end and you come out stronger in the end. Some people come into our lives for specific times for specific reasons and when they're gone it's because they are to be replaced with stronger relationships. You're right, don't throw it away, there were good times! But do file it away and move along.

  2. Aw, thank you! I appreciate it. :)