We are all supposed to be someone.
I'm a woman, so I am supposed to want kids to raise and a house to decorate and a husband to love me.
I'm 40 - so I'm supposed to be sad that I have none of those things. I'm also supposed to feel all washed up.
I'm a "curvy girl" so I'm supposed to desperately try to lose weight (probably so I can attract that missing husband). I'm also supposed to have incredibly low self-esteem, and no self-confidence.
I'm a child of divorce, who is divorced herself, so I'm supposed to be cynical (at best) about love.
I come from a family that leaves - either physically or emotionally. So I am not supposed to trust, or know how to express my feelings. I am supposed to be scared and angry and depressed. I am supposed to react in anger.
I'm an only child, so I am supposed to be completely spoiled, selfish, self centered, and incredibly shy.
I'm sure some of that is true, or at least was true at some point. I certainly struggle with self-esteem and confidence. I am pretty spoiled. I haven't always been great at expressing myself. I'm sure some of those things come and go, depending on my circumstances. Some probably always will.
But those things do not define me. I have learned that every one of us can overcome who we are supposed to be. Things like family and childhood and past experiences do not have the last say in who we are.
In the end, we choose who we will become. It may be a long road, and we might trip and fall along the way - but the path is ours to make.
I am not who I am because of everything I have been through. I am who I am in spite of it.